Minister Yahdan Yada has ignited fierce debate across social media after telling women never to loan men money or hand over their car keys, declaring that “real men provide.” The controversial relationship advice, delivered during a live sermon and later posted on May 26, 2025, has since gone viral, drawing sharp reactions from both supporters and critics.
Yada, a US-based spiritual and wellness minister with a large online following, told women to uphold their value and resist being “financial saviors” in relationships. “Once a man starts leaning on you for survival, he’s no longer standing in his masculine frame,” he said. “You’re enabling dysfunction, not building a partnership.”
His sermon emphasized that women should observe a man’s capacity to lead, provide, and protect before becoming emotionally or materially invested. He warned that many women “mistake potential for stability” and end up drained by men who use love as a cover for dependence. “You become his crutch,” Yada stated, “when you should be his crown.”
While some women applauded his bold stance, calling it “a wake-up call,” others accused him of promoting outdated, hyper-masculine standards. Critics argue that his comments dismiss modern economic realities where women and men often share responsibilities and support one another during financial lows.
Social media platforms like X (formerly Twitter) and Threads are now flooded with reactions using hashtags such as #RealMenProvide, #YahdanYada, and #ModernRelationships. Several relationship experts have weighed in, with some urging a more balanced view that supports mutual growth and partnership, while others endorsed Yada’s emphasis on self-worth and boundaries.
This isn’t the first time Yahdan Yada has trended for his unapologetic views on gender dynamics. Known for mixing spirituality with strict codes of masculinity and femininity, he has built a reputation as both a healer and a polarizing voice in modern relationship discourse.
As the conversation gains traction, Yada’s remarks continue to stir global interest, especially among young African and diaspora women navigating love, independence, and tradition in a fast-changing world. Whether embraced or rejected, his words have sparked a fire—and the debate isn’t cooling anytime soon.
